Don’t read this until you are ready to face the reality, sounds a bit harsh but the truth is harsh sometimes and helps us to grow into better people than we are now!! don’t get a bad idea by the title. the book is totally opposite to what the title says, you have to give fuck to certain things. Unlike many other self-help books that help you find certain tools to achieve your goals, this book talks about what goals one should have in life. This is one of the greatest self-help books I have read, I noted down the things that sounded more important to me in this book.
CHAPTER 1 DON'T TRY
The idea of success is very different for the author of this book, success doesn’t mean a lot of money and fame, it’s about values and the way one leading their life, the values you really care about. So one should stop trying to be successful in a materialistic way as the author says “negativity is the path of positivity” only suffering will let you know the truth and you learn what it takes to have something in life. the idea that the more you pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfies you become, as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place.
Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent it means being comfortable with being different.
CHAPTER 2 HAPPINESS IS A PROBLEM
We are all told to try to be happy all the time, but that’s not how our evolution occurred if you become more comfortable you don’t do more efforts, thus resulting in no growth in life. it’s okay to feel negative sometimes, and feeling anxious is also okay this will actually push you to do things that you want to do, we have to learn to embrace the struggle. It is always easy to want something in life, like wanting to be rich, happy struggles life, Rather than wanting something we should ask ourselves what pain we are ready to go throw to have something, the struggle is inevitable so we should choose what is worth for our struggle.
CHAPTER 3 YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL
We all don’t want to go through a sad phase, rather we want to get to that happiness road skipping the worse parts, we feel we are special that way and we trick our self that we deserve good things without giving the work what it takes, we should stop feeling special and should feel the reality.
CHAPTER 4 THE VALUE OF SUFFERING
If we are working hard and sacrificing good things to achieve the bad values or worthless goals then it is all fucked up, so we need to set values for ourselves to be on track and make our sufferings payback. in this chapter author talks about how to set values, I would like to quote about the most fundamental value that we should all have “honesty”
CHAPTER 5 YOU ARE ALWAYS CHOOSING
Whether you like it or not, you have to choose the struggle you are willing to take responsibility for.
In marvel movie as spider man's uncle says "with great power comes great responsibility", the author Manson says "with great responsibility comes great power"
It’s not our mistake that some bad things happened to us but it’s fully our responsibility to deal with it. This mindset changed my life, and I’m happy that I started taking responsibility for things instead of complaining and bragging about them.
CHAPTER 6 YOU’RE WRONG ABOUT EVERYTHING (BUT SO AM I)
If you think of your version of past years you might feel ridicule about yourself because you were wrong, now you grew up to be more mature but now also you are not right but less wrong than before and this process is endless. By the passing of each year, you continue to become less wrong about things and more mature. So it’s okay that we all wrong we will learn things along the journey of life.
CHAPTER 7 FAILURE IS THE WAY FORWARD
If you don’t do anything in the fear of failure you end up doing nothing, but If you do something even you are wrong you will learn something, and this way you continue to do things. it's okay to make mistakes. As Surf excel says ‘daag tou achay hotay hain’ we should learn to embrace our mistakes more.
CHAPTER 8 IMPORTANCE OF SAYING NO
To say yes to something we have to say no to some other things, the author mainly talks about relationships in this chapter, when you stop telling your partner that you are not okay with some things you might not end up in fights but eventually that relationship becomes toxic. we should learn to express ourselves better, this way we actually improve our relationships better.
CHAPTER 9 …..AND THEN YOU DIE
This chapter is harsh but the truth is we all gone die one day, we always have to keep this in our mind, we should ask ourselves what will we do if it is your last year, last month, last day. Do more in life which brings value and chastisement.
To summarize this book in a line “work on your problem, anyone can complain only heroes make a move” we all are heroes don't forget that!!
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